Some men/women crave a partner in life to make him/her feel special and loved. Attraction does not work in that way. The more you try to force love into your life, the more you will find yourself hopping out of one dead-end relationship to the next, experiencing more heartache that you ultimately wish to avoid.
Finding love is based on the thoughts you send out. The law of attraction gives you exactly what you think about. If you are sending out subconscious signals that you are not good enough, you will attract men/women who will give you reason to believe that you are not good enough. Be very careful about what you wish for, especially when you want to find love.
The first thing you need to understand about finding true love is it will not manifest unless you grow to love yourself first. Develop a relationship with yourself. Buy well fitting clothes, masturbate, eat healthy nutritious food, exercise regularly, and meditate to clear the mind. Give yourself at least an hour of ‘me time’ each day.
Most men/women believe the single life to be desperate and daunting, but it can be a fun time that allows you to become more independent. Spending time alone also teaches you to look at your current life, and make a list of what you want to find in your perfect life partner. It is brave to make a choice to move away from a static relationship. Step out of the picture, and become the true character that others describe you to be.
Do your friends and family compliment your hairstyle, personality, smile, or clothes? Do you accept those compliments, or throw them away because of your deep insecurity? Although I am given many compliments about my positivity and funky style, I do not dwell on these positive thoughts. I am aware this is because of my subconscious mind, but I am working ahead to reach my goal. I am not stating it will be easy to change the mindset, but it is possible with determination. Just like one decides to quit smoking, one can alter the mindset with affirmations, meditation, hypnosis, or even brainwave entrainment. I believe that only when you find true love with yourself, will your inner soul bless you with a kind, loving partner.
If you act out of desperation to meet a partner, you may attract desperate needy men/women. If you decide to use the law of attraction to manifest your perfect partner, visualise the outcome, plant the seed, and remain patient. A very powerful method to use to find love is to imagine you have already met him/her, and plan your life ahead of the manifestation. As soon as you have sent your request to the abundant Universe, state how grateful you are that your request has already been fulfilled, and NEVER question how you will meet him/her. The Universe will deliver to those who surrender to its magic. Any lack based thoughts, such as, “I am never going to feel true love,” will automatically kill the vision, and you will have to request its power for a second time. Describe your future partner—be very descriptive, detach your thoughts, and go about your normal day. The Universe is lining the right day and time for you to ‘bump’ into him/her.
I like to remember the positive statement, “Good things come to those who wait.” The law of attraction works in this exact way. Pessimism or doubts will slow down, or even stop, the flow of abundance, but if you believe in your vision, it HAS to manifest one way or another.
Some men/women cope well alone, but other individuals can find it extremely difficult or even downright depressing to be single. I continue to watch my friends jump in and out of one unfulfilling relationship to the next in the space of only weeks/months. It hardly ever works over the long-term because they are always on the lookout for someone better. Thinking this way will never convey true happiness either.
It may take some time until he/she understands that love cannot be forced, but until that time occurs, he/she will continue down the road of destruction, wasting more precious time and energy.
After a relationship ends, desperate men/women try to seek a partner to build another fulfilling relationship with. The thought of being single and alone terrifies him/her. In the past, I felt exactly like this until I spent time with myself. Now, I cannot get enough of my own company. Although real love is beautiful to find, it is also difficult to find a true-life partner who supports your life choices and feels your every emotion.
Life is too short to spend a quarter of life in and out of dead-end relationships, which drains the body of precious energy. In the beginning of a relationship, every moment feels exciting, and nothing feels weird or out of place. After several months or years with that person, unbeknown problems may then start to manifest. Do you ignore them, or believe in a long-term future with your beloved? What do your instincts state? If it states the obvious—things are not meant to be—why would you choose to put yourself through a dreary relationship that will only lead to unhappiness and lack based thoughts.
Spend time with yourself through meditation, make new friends, and build up a healthy social life with likeminded people. The urgent desire to seek a partner will eventually diminish, and the next time you meet a man/woman, he/she could be the complete opposite of whom you normally date. Instinctively, you know that your relationship will build into something beautiful because you did not consciously blow out ‘desperate’ vibes.
Have you heard the expression, “When you stop looking for love, it will find you?” Men/women find it easy to smell a desperate vibe from a mile away. It would be extremely rare for an individual to find true love, especially if he/she has never spent time alone, or stopped hopping from one fruitless relationship to the next.
Men/women seeking a partner in desperation will subconsciously demonstrate this through his/her body language. He/she could be on the constant lookout for a partner, but also judge other peoples looks. Because of this, he/she may then be more likely to go home alone on social nights out. If he/she does meet a man/woman, the chosen partner may seem perfect until he/she displays an unattractive, clingy side.
Subconsciously, he/she has no idea of the desperate vibe sent out through his/her vibrations, but it is a deeper insecurity that he/she must firstly admit to regarding the need for a partner to feel complete. He/she may not like or want to admit this fact, but self-love is the main thing he/she must work on in order to meet the perfect partner. One person who relies heavily on another could turn a relationship difficult. The aim of a loving relationship should be to love unconditionally, rather than conditionally. Detach yourself from a partner, but send out the love by always wishing him/her well. Conditional love is easy to spot e.g. jealousy of another, reliance on another person for happiness, and high expectations during a relationship or marriage.
To attract a partner, first stop looking and enjoy the current moment. Love your unique self; rely on yourself, never others, and stop searching for another person to complete you. If looks are one of the main components you search for, try to let down your boundaries and date an individual who is the complete opposite of your perfect partner. Good looks will always fade, but personality remains timeless.
