Jul05
I freely talk so easily about orgasms, but what about those women who struggle to orgasm? This article is for you. Stress and orgasms do not mix well. If you have a mind full of anxiety and cloudiness you will find it difficult to relax into the moment. It may also be frustrating for those women who fail to orgasm to find a fulfilling relationship with a partner. They may constantly fake orgasm and feel resentment toward their partner. Here are some tips to help yourself:
- Learn to love masturbation. The first time I ever masturbated – around fourteen years of age – it took me three hours. But I felt the build up, and I was hooked afterward. No matter how long it takes, start to love your body. Caress your nipples softly, run your fingers over your abdomen and hips and tease in between your thighs. These are sensitive areas and hot erogenous zones. If you know the zones to stimulate it will automatically start to release the stress from your mind. Practice practice practice by yourself.
- Fantasise. How can you reach orgasm if you do not free your mind to think about all those naughty, explicit fantasies you have always wanted to experiment with? The great thing about having a free mind is that you can think about what you want and no-one can read your mind. It would be rather boring to think about your partner ALL the time during masturbation or sex. Do you have a secret fetish? Imagine yourself in the scene. Picture what you are doing, how you are feeling, and soon enough your juices will start to flow involuntary as a sign of your arousal.
- Make time for yourself. You work for other people all day every day. The work stresses you out and you find yourself bringing that stress home. Carry crystals around to absorb negative energies. They work magically to absorb energies and they stimulate your chakras to promote your wellbeing. They are perfect to use during meditation, which is another mind-clearing exercise together with yoga. Take a long bath, go to bed early and start fantasising about an individual you fancy to get your juices flowing.
- Build your confidence? Perhaps it is an ex-partner who has transferred their insecurities and anxieties into your mindset? Not everyone can orgasm first time. It takes practice because full concentration on your own pleasure gives incredible ecstasy. It is impossible to orgasm with other things floating through your mind. Learn to forget about the past and start living in the now. Remember your breath and where you are right now. The past destroys people. If you can learn to stop thinking ahead to the future or focusing on worries then your mind will be free to experiment on the pleasures of life.
- Experiment with finger pressures. When I want a quickie orgasm, I stroke myself fast, but sometimes I like to get my heart rate up and masturbate for hours. This causes perspiration and the body starts to burn calories. Regular masturbation will also cause your pussy to tighten so you can throw out those boring kegal tightening machines. Toys are effective, but if you want an out of this world workout, use your fingers.
- Stop faking. What pleasure do you get from faking orgasm? None! Some women can orgasm in minutes, other take hours. Often during phone sex with my partner it takes me hours to orgasm, and my partner won’t release himself until I do, so it keeps him on edge and gives him an earth-shattering release. Remember to calm the mind, forget about anything else but your pleasure, and focus on your orgasm. Do not try to force it, it will explode when necessary whether that takes hours or minutes.
