I suppose those people looking for love do not want to play games to get their heart’s desire, but unfortunately, game playing does go on. What we must remember is that if something is taken away, others crave it. Take a favorite food for instance. I’ve just come through a six day juice fast, and for six days I craved a meat feast pizza and greasy chinese. These were memories in my mind that caused these severe cravings…and they were. Tasting food after drinking only fruit and vegetable juices for almost a week made me grateful for whole food. Tonight, after not eating Mini Eggs for months, a massive craving for them took hold of my mind. Mini Eggs transfixed me… and my mind wouldn’t rest until I tasted them again. Boy are they yum!
Okay, so how does this work in relationships? Well take for instance those people who you are not that bothered about, or you’ve been on a couple of dates with them. They text or phone you, and you wait hours or even days to return their call because you’re not that interested. This attitude makes them actually CRAVE you more because ignorance is bliss.
I’ve made that mistake many times. It is a struggle to try to be non attentive with the guy or girl that you like, but if you want them to take you seriously then limit your time. I know it’s so difficult with the guys/girls you do like, but these strategies work. Make them wait for you. Most men like a chase, that’s all this is. If you make yourself available all the time or call or text them as soon as they’ve contacted you, they know they have control and see you as a weaker match.
Now I’ve never been able to play these games, but they do sure as hell work. There was one guy I liked and I tried so hard to bed him after we shared just one kiss. Months later after I had ‘got over him’ he started coming onto me (not sure why) and I displayed no interest. Every time we went out he pestered me and gave me a wide array of compliments. This had never ever happened with him before, and he was a cool dude with tattoos and piercings. After I eventually slept with him and wondered what the hype was all about because there wasn’t much of a spark, he still expressed interest, whereas I had none. I hated to hurt his feelings but I follow my own heart. So you see, if it works for me, it will work for you too.
To summarise:
- In early relationships, if you really like the guy/girl, limit your time. Wait hours/days to return their message/phone call.
- For those people who you do not like that much. Act possessed. Bake them cookies, or carry out some other extremity to scare them off.
