Feb23
If you’re in a long distance relationship and are faithful, big respect to you. My lover lives 4000 miles away and I still crave him every day. What about those couples who are bored or seek fulfilment elsewhere. Is it possible to spice up a long distance relationship? Although I cannot give him an amazing blow job for real, I can sure as hell write about giving him exactly that. Writing is what brought us together.
So how does one spice up a long distance relationship?
- Talk every day. It shows that you are willing to give up your time to share with your lover/partner. Whether this is via Skype, phone, email, or via text. In order to keep the relationship alive, both of you have to put in the work.
- Surprise your lover. Not every one of us has a spontaneous side, but wouldn’t it be cool to surprise your lover with a romantic message that they were not expecting or just a simple ‘I love you’ now and again. If you bring a smile to their face then your spontaneous surprise was worth it.
- Do not listen to others. Whomever you choose to be with in your life is your decision, no-one elses. Do not let others make the decision for you. If the relationship feels right and you trust your partner, stay with them. Always follow your instincts. I have people who think my relationship is a joke but it is very real to me and no-one can take my thoughts away from me.
- Set aside 2-3 times a week for phone/cybersex. If you have a webcam, get naked and play with yourself to really turn on your partner. If you’re normally shy with filthy words, say them and see what reaction you get out of your partner. Phone sex is all about acting, so get into that dream character you’ve always fantasied about.
- Remember that you still have your independence. A lot of people in long distance relationships forget that they still have their independence, and this is very important. I love socializing with my friends or spending time alone in my own company.
- Write a book together. That’s what me and K are doing. I still think he’s a bit of a liar when he states that he has never written explicit erotica before he met me. He is just as filthy minded as I am. The great thing about writing a book together is that you each have less to write, the creativity comes from both you and your partner so they can come up with ideas you might never have thought of, and it will take a lot less time than if you were writing a novel alone.
- Develop a mental connection. Tell your partner your secrets, fantasies, everything. Let them imagine what it would be like to live in your mind. Phone sex with a mental connection is amazing because it’s like your partner is in the room with you describing exactly what they want to do to you rather than just watching a porno and wanking.
