If you have the time to spare, spend as much time on foreplay as possible. I highlight foreplay in my new sex guide book, The Sexual Mind: Guide to FFI Sex. Okay, a quickie is fabulous in the morning or after during make-up sex after a feisty argument but foreplay can be as boring or as intense as you wish it to be.

It does not have to be timed either. If you try out exciting new techniques like my hair pulling or rubbing technique, these will make you look forward to foreplay. You do not have to even stroke your partner’s body with your fingers, tongue, or lips either, you can use foreplay tools like a feather, flower, ice cube, vibrating toy, or something sticky like honey. Surprising your lover is equally fascinating and will give them a memorable experience.

I like to tie up my partner and turn wild. Sex is between you and your partner. No-one needs to know what you get up to unless you’re a gossip who loves to blab so start your experimentation and your orgasms will be out of this world hot.