I write about erotica in my new book, Guide to FFI Sex. Erotica is hot and comes in a variety of styles. There is romantic erotica with a happy ending, explicit erotica, which I like to write, and graphic pornographic erotica which is all sex, cock, and all those crude words.

Reading it in front of your partner can help to create a new kind of heat. When reading, you could even take on a character. If it’s a dominatrix role, how cool would it be for your partner to take on that role?
What is even hotter is starting a story of your own. You could set any scene, take on any personality, even opposite to yourself, and make it as hot as you like.